Category Archives: Divorce

Divorcing parents and children still may see one another every day

“The children didn’t ask for this divorce” shared the premier plasterer who scheduled his day around meeting the children at their buses after school, doing homework with them at their Mother’s home, until she returned from her corporate job.

A CFO of his company delivered the two children to school and picked them up five days a week. They did homework at the children’s private school, after school, had snacks, and were delivered to Mom’s house on the alternate weeks when they didn’t live at his home.

One Mom left her home three nights a week, to attend classes, or visit with friends, while the children’s Dad came to her home, gave the children dinner and baths, and read them stories. The children spent Saturdays initially with Dad, and Sundays with their Mother.

Another family had Friday evenings, including dinner, stories, and tuck-ins every week.

Many parents are deeply frightened that divorcing and restructuring their families means there will be many days between those during which they will see their children. It doesn’t have to be that way. Parents can design creative schedules, especially initially, so that they and their children have almost daily contact with one another. They are used to daily access, except when a parent travels, and many parents want to keep it that way.

Couples coming to The Negotiation Collaborative, Janet Miller Wiseman Mediation and Counseling Services receive the benefit of continuously brainstorming creative options for living arrangements schedules until they reach one that is flexible over time, and comfortable for parents and children, alike.

Where there is a will to frequent access between children and parents, there is a way!

Janet Miller Wiseman, LICSW, Certified Divorce and Family Mediator, The Negotiation Collaborative, Janet Miller Wiseman, Mediation and Counseling Services

No more alimony deduction? How can that be.

Just finished reading the morning paper about all the lobbying to change the new tax proposal. There was no talk about saving the deductibility of alimony. I was unaware until the draft bill came out that eliminating the alimony deduction was being proposed. This will be catastrophic for families dependent on receiving alimony or unallocated… Continue Reading

Thinking outside the box about mediation

Clients and family law attorneys are by now very familiar with using mediation as a technique to settle divorce cases. What is less well understood is that there are a myriad of ways to use mediators to make litigation of divorce cases more efficient and streamlined without giving up the right to have their trial… Continue Reading

BBA Talk on Income from Pass-Through Entities

On Tuesday November 3, 2015 at 5:30pm (at the Boston Bar Association on Beacon Street in Boston) I will be giving a talk with financial expert Robert Stankus from CBIZ Tofias about the implications of income from a pass-through entity. This is a challenging but interesting topic that can cause fits to practitioners and the Court as they… Continue Reading

Award Winning Book on Collaborative Practice

Proud to announce my participation as one of the co-authors of this award winning book on Collaborative Practice published by Massachusetts Continuing Education (MCLE NEW ENGLAND). Thanks to all of the co-authors who participated and to MCLE for their help. The International Association for Continuing Legal Education (ACLEA) has announced that Massachusetts Continuing Legal Education… Continue Reading

Temporary Alimony is NOT General Term Alimony

The Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court added new clarification today in its opinion in the Holmes case (see full opinion here). In Holmes, Husband was ordered to pay temporary alimony during the pendency of the divorce modification case.  The SJC held that the 2 years Husband paid “temporary alimony” (during the pendency of the modification case)… Continue Reading

Child Support is Becoming More Complex

I used to tell my clients that child support was a straight forward issue.  Prior to the August 2013 Child Support Guidelines, I believed that it was.  If one parent had primary custody of the child/ren then to determine income, simply input the data into the child support calculator and whatever the number was, would… Continue Reading

Your first meeting with your divorce lawyer

For most people the first step they take in getting divorced is contacting a divorce lawyer. A lot has been written on how to choose a lawyer. This article assumes that you already have chosen a lawyer who you think you will be satisfied with. There is a fair amount of anxiety surrounding that first… Continue Reading

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